CONFESSION OF AN INTROVERT

 

Introvert : Living a quiet life in a noisy world

why was i so reluctant to go to parties and why did i want to leave them shortly after arriving? why did i get annoyed when a dating with a friend turns out to be group outing? who i'm so picky, picky, picky  about who i spent time with? why do i like being alone that much? why crowd threats me? why only my closed room seems the best world to me?

yes, i'm an introvert . And there's not a damn thing wrong about it.

 I'm not alone, not afraid, I'm just me in my world. maybe a bit shy or just not interested , a bit un-read by others' .I don't need the crowd to be my strength, just a person or two be there. I'm in love with my solitude ,rather than the fun in the crowd.

Introverts vs. Extroverts

• the difference between extroverts and introverts are not that the former are good at socializing and the latter aren't. or that introverts dislike people and extrovert never met the strangers, or the introvert don't like to talk  or the extrovert loves nice, long conversation or that introverts prefer books and extroverts prefer sports. 

    in a way, it's all myths and in another it's true.

• Researchers indicates that brains of extroverts requires copious amount of neurotransmitter "Dopamine" and introverts were happily fueled with a neurotransmitter "acetylcholine" . if dopamine is a neurotransmitter of " get up and go" , acetylcholine is for " settle down and think about it" and that why we tend to act and react slowly.

• introverts are like a recharagble battery and we need to stop expending energy and rest in our own niche to regain energy and extroverts are like solar panel, they need to be out ,need the sun to be charged.

Introversion not wrong, Extroversion is not right -- and vice versa. we're who we're and that makes the world interesting.

 

C.G.Jung was the 1st to propose the model of physic energy , suggesting that for introvert energy flows  inwards and for extrovert it flows outward. And we introverts can feel it. A weekend of heavy socializing can put me in a coma for a couple of days after. 

As an introvert, we take up our own space in the world, even though the shape of it, is not till well defined.

And so, in a way , the nation seems more extroverted than ever. it's full of squeaking wheels, demanding attentions. politics are loud and bellicose and the most vocals and rude pundits get the most attentions. our quiet thinkers, philosophers, poets and eggheads don't have a chance to be heard over the racket. introverts are being drowned out altogether. when a movie is hit we credit the stars, not the writer. Reality shows earns more money than the librarian(not that it's impossible for a librarian to be extrovert). Extroverts love the spotlight and they knows how to get it. There is no such thing like introvert actor and extrovert writers; extroverts writers are found to be ghost writers and introvert actor like Julia Robert earn fame when they are in extroverted mode. in some ways it's all fine. we introverts don't like all eyes on us anyway. But it's also be frustrating when we have something to say but don't want to yell.

 introvert , extrovert and shy

science says necessarily we're not shy. introversion is often mistaken by shyness. it's not same as shyness . Though both relates to socalising but there can be crossover,they're not mutually exclusive. "Shy people are sacred of socializing and introverts are just not always interested in socialising"

according to L.A.Schmidtt , a neuroscientist -

someone who is introvert and shy behave different from

someone who is introvert and not shy, who behaves different from

someone who is extrovert and shy, who behaves differently from

someone who is extrovert and not shy.

the unhappiest combination being Extroverts and Shy. and me being introvert and shy.

BE ASSURED : you're not mentally ill. you're not weird, not dangerous, or lacking anything. you just like to be alone(introverts) or to be crowded(extroverts). we're just born in this way. and it's GREAT the way you're.

CONFESSION :

we're (introverts) equally happy to cedge the stage, we accept attention but we don't compete for it.' i can shut down my show, and be happy to be audience or just slip out the back door and let the show go on without me. ' 

we're easily rattled by a lot of noise or fuss , highly attuned to the moods and emotions of other people, think deeply, act slowly to warm up to a new situation.

we're not  being active or be willing to be in a conversation with strangers on social medias.

we're willed to keep things separate in two lists of private and public disclose.

we too want affirmations , and if we cancel a outing plan, instead of insisting us, dragging us by wrist ,sit besides us and why not have a deep conversation about the sky or just admire my dimples.

we can do everything extroverts do and do it well. the difference is that, after a while we lose interest. it's fun to be a silent watcher to take a pause and analyse things. we may take news of gloom, doom, disaster too much to heart; may cry a bucket after the passing out scene of our fav actor. 

we're sometime tagged as "too intense",  just because we prefer deep ,thoughtful conversation to cheerful chitchats and sometime called "snobbish" because we don't think that two is necessarily better than one, and prefer one-on-one or small groups over large gatherings.

and to me those things are all fine, normal, great sense of  well being and obviously nothing wrong.

REMEMBER :

 " Other people's desire for me to participate is not more important than my desire not to participate."

From an introvert, to all introverts, extroverts, ambiverts out there.

N.b.-  Scientifics data/analysis are from books by sophia dembling, susan cain,